a few days back i saw a hoarding of Canara bank saying "we all change for the ones we love"........ the advertisers are getting smarter day by day as they coin such catchlines with which we immediately identify ourselves as we all have faced the situation once or more in our lives....irrespective of the consequences.....
this line immediately reminds me of another sentence..."the most permanenet thing on earth is change" this was a line written by a good friend of in my slambook when we were parting after 10th....and 5 years down the line i realize the weight of those words .....one of my best friends here tell me it is not good to share my personal life in a public blog forum........and he is still in gtalk telling me not to write like a diary ...but i m sorry friend....i really wanna write...anyways, it wont have much impact since i hardly have visitors
my first blog was dedicated to nikhilesh....and this one i would like to dedicate to the person for whom i have changed...
i would start with the true story of one of my room mates here ....a story of a girl who made the mistake of loving a person who was not compatible with her ( i will not use the term "loving the wrong person" because right or wrong is a relative term).....and eventually they broke up .....i do not know what was the consequence of break up on the boy, but what i got to know from the girl is what i can write about ....she tried all means to end her life...heavy drinking, smoking, drinking phenyl, Hit, Baygon, sleeping pills, cutting veins....... (to be frank, it seemed pretty filmy when i heard....but i am writing what i got to know from her).....finally she met with an accident in which she might have lost her life.....but by gods grace she lived and after 2 months she met me in our karthik nagar hostel......she completed her MBA, took finance as specialization and got into HSBC as an intern (as of now).......did fall in love again and the rest time will tell....she also did change in a year.....she herself told me that she is thankful to her ex boyfriend for what she is today
the oldest social institution that is mariage is a tough exercise of deliberately making people (especially girls.....and these days, boys also) change in the name of adjustment..........personally speaking, i hate the word adjustment in marital context to the core..... and that is changing for the ones we love.......and when we do it happily, we dont realize we are adjusting; ie changing..........and in many cases it is constructive........another room mate of the above mentioned girl was a stupid villager who did not know internet, make up, did not wanna do MBA, was blatantly truthful.......and she also suffered a break up........and like her roomie, she also had a 180 degree change...and thats for good...now its a story of a guy who loved a girl, elder to him, and of a different religion, got separated and thereafte started lowering his standard of living and lifestyle by all possible means...sleeping with girls, and into alcohol and tobacco.....after a long period, he did meet her old girl friend, who also suffered a similar fate as his, but in a socially presentable manner....and they are united for good
...well, this is too much of emotional atyachar on me now... my nerves are taxed...i have a lot of story like this to share...but i am no Vyas, and dont wanna write Mahabharat Part 2...BTW, does this blog story remind you of the movie" life in a metro'? it does to me... i am sorry for ending the post abruptly, coz i dont want the thoughts to run, flood, clog and suffocate me...i need to stop.... i ll revisit the article some time later probably...
however, at the heart of hearts, i will say that change is good, pain is good, tears are good, heartbreaks are good, ego is good, challenge is good, jealousy is good, life is good......we cannot always expect to remain in our comfort zones....and change is mandatory .....and when we dont want to learn it the easy way, bhagwaan ko ungli tera karna padta hai ......
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